Will You Be Alone This Christmas? Strategies to cope.

December dawns, and with it… preparations for Christmas begin to consume our thoughts.

 

 

Christmas, a time to spend time with family and friends; but some people will be spending the holidays alone. Will you be alone this Christmas? Let’s come up with some strategies for coping with being alone at Christmas.

 

 

 

First of all, it is important to establish why you will be alone this Christmas. And then we will devise some coping strategies for each particular situation

 

For younger people,  perhaps you or your spouse is in the military and not able to come home for Christmas.

 

SOLDIERS

 

 

Coping strategies for the deployed soldier:

 

Thank goodness for churches and other organizations who compile “care packages” for those who are deployed during Christmas.  It is like a taste of home in a box.  We need to appreciate our soldiers who put themselves in harms way to protect our freedom.

 

 

Modern day deployed soldiers can make use of the internet to talk to, and see their family by way of Skype, Face Time, or What’s App.  It’s not the same; but it may help some.

 

Turning to fellow soldiers for companionship may ease loneliness.  Attend or organize a Christmas party. Sing some carols, maybe exchange small gifts, and remember the real “reason for the season”.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Coping strategies for the spouse left at home:

 

Be sure to surround yourself with family and friends. Taking part in church activities can be rewarding and satisfying.

 

If you have some extra time, you could help your children make Christmas cards or small gifts and take them to lonely nursing home residents.

 

Get with friends and relatives to trade babysitting, so you can go shopping. Don’t neglect yourself. Remind yourself that your separation is only temporary.

 

Find time to be alone with God.

 

 

Some people may be separated, going through a divorce or have recently lost a loved one this Christmas. If this is the case, you may not feel like getting involved in the festivities of Christmas; but isolating yourself will just make you more lonely.

 

 

Coping strategies for people who are separated or divorced this Christmas:

 

It can be difficult, if you have always celebrated the holidays as a couple or a family, to cope with the changes during separation and divorce. Sometimes children must be split between two families for Christmas.

 

Arrangements may be difficult to make; but try not to make the situation worse by fretting and complaining. Emotions are sometimes raw between separated or divorced couples; but every effort should be made to be as amicable as possible. 

 

No one will have a nice Christmas if one or both parties insists on always having their way; or tries to use the children as a means to hurt or “pay back” the other party.

 

Sometimes doing something for someone else can ease our own loneliness. Reach out to someone in need and help in any way you can.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If finances are tight, encourage your children to make gifts for others, and tell them you will be making some of their gifts.  Look up different crafts on the internet or in magazines or books.  Make it fun.  But you can also take advantage of community services that give free gifts to children.

 

 

Become creative to spend less money and still give. Give a friend or relative a coupon for free babysitting or housecleaning. Check out Facebook and other places for gently used articles for much cheaper than new, or maybe even free!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Perhaps you have outlived many of your friends and relatives. Are you now confined to a nursing home or in your own home with assistance?

 

 

 

Coping strategies for lonely elderly:

 

Grandchildren can be the bright highlight of our twilight years. If you have grandchildren, get in touch with them during the holidays.

 

If you live in your own home and are physically able, offer to babysit while the parents shop. It may be a little hectic at times; but also very rewarding.  Caring for others is often a cure for our own loneliness.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you don’t have somewhere to go on Christmas and you are able bodied, take advantage of a community Christmas dinner, and make some new friends there.

 

 

 

Look around and try to fill the needs of others this Christmas. You will find that you will be so concerned with others that you forget your loneliness.

 

If you aren’t physically able to go out, you can still encourage others with phone calls, cards and letters. Let someone know that you are praying for them. Even people who aren’t alone on Christmas need encouragement and prayers.

 

 

Perhaps you are estranged from your family this Christmas.  Maybe this would be a good time to reach out to try to make peace with them. Pray for forgiveness and to be able to forgive.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You may be able to find a family atmosphere in church. Or perhaps friends who live nearby would invite you to share in their festivities.  It doesn’t hurt to let people know you will be alone.  How can they be of help if they don’t know?

 

Don’t be afraid to learn a little about computers and build a cyber family, or keep in touch with friends online. If one can’t get out to visit; visiting online is the next best thing. We are never to old to learn.

 

 

To sum it up. You may be alone this Christmas; but there are many coping strategies for dealing with loneliness. Here are just a few:

 

1. Reach out to help other people.

2. Don’t make the mistake of isolating yourself.

3. Beware of self pity and other destructive emotions.

4. Take advantage of community programs.

5.  Give of yourself to others as you are able.

6.  Encourage others through phone calls, cards, letters and prayers.

7.  Be part of a church if you are able.

8.  Take advantage of the joy of grandchildren and great grandchildren.

9.  Be a peacemaker as much as you are able this Christmas.

10. REMEMBER what Christmas is really all about.

 

 

December 25th is the day we chose to celebrate

the birth of Jesus Christ.

 

Christmas is about love.

 

Our God loved us so much that He sent His only son to be born of a Virgin. He was 100% God and 100% man. He set aside His deity to come to earth to live as man and to die as an eternal sacrifice to save us from our sins and give us the gift of eternal life. Now that’s love!

 

 

The sinless perfect “Lamb of God” took our sins upon himself and suffered and died in our place. He paid the penalty for our sins by giving his own life, and shedding his own blood to cover our sins. He is the sacrifice to end all sacrifices. The son of God; whose love knows no limits.

 

 

 

Christmas isn’t about our loneliness, or our happiness. It’s about love. A love that transcends all earthly  emotions. The love of a Heavenly Father for His children. A sacrificial love that took our punishment, to give us a gift that couldn’t be earned.  The potential gift of eternal life.

 

 

 

Christmas is about love.

 

Christmas isn’t about giving and getting presents.  (though we have made it that).

 

It’s not about all the decorations and Christmas lights. (beautiful as they are).

 

Christmas is not about spending time with friends and family and enjoying a good meal. (but we do enjoy that).

 

It’s not about Santa, flying reindeer and a sleigh full of toys for all the good little girls and boys.

 

 

Christmas isn’t about baking cookies to give to friends and family.

 

It’s not even a time to give to charities and people in need. (Although it is good to do this).

 

 

Christmas is about God’s love for us.

 

 

 

Will you join me in praying for all those who are alone or lonely this Christmas?  And for all those military families who will be separated this holiday season.  May we all reach out in love to those who are less fortunate than us, and always remember the real “reason for the season”.

 

Thank you for reading.  Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below.

 

I wish you and yours a very Merry Christmas!

 

 

At your service,

Jeannie

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Thanksgiving and Giving Thanks

Hi Retirees and other cherished friends.


It’s that time of year again. 
Halloween is over and Christmas is looming.  It is almost Thanksgiving Day.  The day we celebrate Thanksgiving and giving thanks.

 

 

Thanksgiving

 

What do you think of when you think Thanksgiving?  What are your family traditions?

 

Almost all of us, in the USA, first of all, think of enjoying a delicious turkey dinner on Thanksgiving Day.  Turkey, mashed potatoes, gravy, stuffing, candied sweet potatoes, and don’t forget the cranberry sauce and pumpkin pie.

 

 

Thanksgiving dinner is served in remembrance of the first Thanksgiving dinner between the pilgrims and their Indian friends.

 

The Indians taught the pilgrims how to plant and grow vegetables.  The first Thanksgiving get together was to celebrate the harvest that would feed their families.

 

 

Another tradition people enjoy on Thanksgiving Day is watching the annual Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade on television.  And of course, there is the football for the men; and contemplating Black Friday Deals for the women.

 

Not that those things can’t be enjoyed by both sexes; but just that it is more common for the men to enjoy football and the women to enjoy shopping, right?

 

 

 

Some families go around the table after the meal; and each person tells something they are thankful for.  Then the pumpkin pies and other yummy deserts come on the scene.  Everyone then becomes thankful for the yummy sweet treats.

 

 

Thanksgiving is a time for the family to come together and enjoy a delicious meal.  And a time to remember to be thankful for our blessings.  It is a time loved by everyone.

 

Except maybe turkeys.

 

 

 

I feel like I would be remiss if I didn’t include a few Thanksgiving recipes.  Perhaps some of these recipes are already part of your Thanksgiving spread; but if not, you may want to add something new to your traditional fare.  I found this on YouTube and I thought it was a great collection of recipes.  I hope you can use and enjoy them.

 

Recipes

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Would you like to get the jump on Black Friday?  How about some Black Friday Deal sites?  I picked what I thought were favorite stores in my area.

 

 

Check out these sites:

 

https://blackfriday.com/walmart-black-friday

https://blackfriday.com/kohls-black-friday

https://blackfriday.com/target-black-friday

 

If you like to shop online, you can find almost anything on Amazon.  As an affiliate, I would make a small commission if you buy through my link; and there is no extra cost to you.  I will keep you posted and send you some special sales closer to Black Friday and Cyber Monday.  In the meantime, you can click on the link below and then search for what you are interested in purchasing.  Thank you.

 

 

 

My favorite Black Friday sale is at Wealthy Affiliate.  You will save big on yearly premium membership.  I will keep you posted.

https://my.wealthyaffiliate.com/order/blackfriday?a_aid=47e7b7c8

 

 

Giving Thanks

 

Thanksgiving Day comes once a year, and reminds us to be thankful for our blessings,  But giving thanks should be an attitude that we cultivate every day of the year.

 

 

 

We have so much to be thankful for; if we will simply take the time to count our blessings.  Why is it so easy for us to see all our problems, shortcomings, and flaws?  Yet we must dig deeply to see all the numerous God given blessings we all possess, if we will just take the time to recognize them.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I know some of you are thinking, “Yeah, well you don’t know what I’m going through right now.”  Yes, it’s true I don’t know what you are going through; and you don’t know what I am going through; but God does.  And He has asked us to give thanks in all things (not FOR all things).  There is a difference.

 

1 Thessalonians 5:18 KJV – In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.

 

Giving thanks doesn’t depend on what we are going through.  During every time in our lives there is something to be thankful for.  So take the time to excavate.  Dig deeply and toss all the dirt of life aside to reveal the daily blessings for which we can be truly thankful.

 

 

If you have family and friends, that is something to be thankful for.  If you don’t, then be thankful for a warm house, clothes to wear, and food on your table.  If you don’t have those necessities, you can be thankful for God’s promises.

 

You will never truly be alone.  The world can forsake you; but if you give your life to God; He has promised to never leave you or forsake you.  If you feel weak; thank Him that He is strong for you.

 

2 Corinthians 12:10 KJV – Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions,in distresses for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then am I strong.

 

If you feel you have nothing to be thankful for; then you are believing a lie.  Even if there was nothing in your life to be thankful for (but there always is); you can be thankful that Christ died on the cross for our sins and that our sins are forgiven; if we come with a repentant heart.

 

Be thankful for your salvation!

 

It is helpful when we feel overwhelmed with problems or saddened with heartaches; to write all the depressing, painful and degrading things down on a piece of paper, and then burn it.

 

 

 

After all your problems and heartaches are burned up in flames; take a new sheet of paper and write down all your blessings, and all that you are thankful for.

 

No blessing is too small that it shouldn’t be counted.  It is often the small blessings in life that are the most meaningful and bring the most joy, comfort and peace.

 

 

When your list is finished, take time to pray and thank God for each of the blessings you have written down.  Save this list.  Add to it as blessings come to mind.  You will find that your problems don’t seem so large and overwhelming, when you take your eyes off of them, and begin to give thanks for your blessings.

 

 

Be thankful every day!

 

Practice having a thankful attitude and giving thanks for what you have, and you will find yourself being more joyful, peaceful and content no matter what the current circumstances are in your life.

 

Trust in the Lord.

 

Search and find Bible verses that teach you to trust in God’s sovereign care.  Use them to build your trust in the Lord.  They will give you peace and comfort if you believe they are true.

 

Here are just a few to get you started.

 

Proverbs 3:5 KJV – Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

Psalms 34:22 KJV – The LORD redeemeth the soul of his servants: and none of them that trust in him shall be desolate.

Romans 8:28 KJV – And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

 

Keep your ears and eyes open as you read your Bible, or devotional, or when you listen to a sermon.  If you look for verses on trust; God will provide.  Seek and ye shall find.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I hope you all have a truly blessed Thanksgiving!  And remember that every day is a day for giving thanks to God.

 

Acts 17:28 KJV – For in Him we live, and move, and have our being.

 

I trust you have enjoyed reading about Thanksgiving and Giving Thanks.  I would love to hear your thoughts and comments.  Please leave a note in the comment section below.

 

You may be interested in these posts which contain similar content:

https://thesuccessfulretiree.com/peace-is-a-blessing-from-god

 

https://thesuccessfulretiree.com/jump-for-the-joy-of-the-lord

 

At your service,

Jeannie

One Year at Wealthy Affiliate – Come Along With Me.

Hello fellow retirees and other cherished friends.

 

I have promised to take you along on my journey since my first affiliation with Wealthy Affiliate.  I am writing to let you know that I have just celebrated one year with Wealthy Affiliate and earned a year dedication badge.

 

 

I invite you to come along with me as I go back in time to figure out what I have learned and accomplished in one year at Wealthy Affiliate.

 

 

 

Previously, I had written about some of my other milestones in the following posts.

 

Hello Retirees!

Retire and Learn to Acquire

 

I remember when I first started here.  I was very much a newborn baby to Affiliate Marketing.  I knew a little about the computer; but next to nothing about working online.  First of all (just like a newborn baby), I had no idea how much there was to learn, or how much time I would actually need to put into a baby website.

 

 

However, by the 4th day of my lessons, I was creating a new website.  A baby raising a baby.  🙂  But I was so excited!  I created a website!  I expectantly went about the business of getting some pages written on my brand new website.

 

I wrote a “Getting Started” page, an “About me” page, and a “Privacy Policy” page.  Continuing on with the lessons, I followed the steps as closely as I could.  It felt good to be able to check off the tasks as they were completed.

 

 

 

I learned how to write my own posts; and got busy with the task of content.  I ran in to obstacles from time to time, and sometimes received help from the community.  Other times I figured it out for myself by trial and error. Just like a baby learning to walk; I fall down and get back up again and again.  I am still learning day by day, lesson by lesson.  I fall less, and I am walking better than ever before.

 

Getting involved in the Wealthy Affiliate community was very much a blessing for me.  Having recently lost my parents, whom I had been taking care of, left a void that the community filled for me.  It is amazing talking to people from all over the world.  There are some who just remain acquaintances, and others become close friends; but it has been a positive experience for me.

 

 

 

As I began writing blogs on the WA site; I could see my writing improving.  And reading other people’s posts was both enjoyable and informative.  Time passed quickly and I gained more and more followers. And my ranking continued to fall.  It seemed to go quickly down from 200 to 100 as you can see in the following posts.

 

Retired and on Fire

Top 100 at Wealthy Affiliate

 

Nearing the end of 2016, with my website, WA community and my own preparations for the holidays; I began to feel overwhelmed. 

 

My rank had fallen below 50; due to my involvement in the community.  But I found I was spending more and more time on the WA community site, and less on my lessons, my website, and my life.  I knew I would have to step back.  This post tells the story.

 

Another Wealthy Affiliate Goal Reached – Top 50!

I found I needed to take a little time off from the community.  For a while I turned off most of my email notifications and concentrated on my lessons and website.  During that time, my ranking went up to a little above 100.  Recently I have been spending a little more time on the WA community site in an effort to bring it back down.  I am currently ranked at 91.  I hope, with a little time, to bring it down below 50 again.

 

 

I also took some time for a vacation to Germany, (where I visited my great grandchildren twins), with a stop off in Paris. You can view my post about this vacation if you are interested.

 

Trip to Paris, France and Kaiserslautern, Germany – With Pictures

After recovering from my vacation, I plunged back in.  I have been writing a post a week.  I would prefer to be writing 2 or 3; but at least I am steady with one post a week.  I currently have 70 posts (counting this one) and 3 pages of content on my website.  My website and I are no longer babies; but toddlers.

 

 

I have learned how to put my posts on social media; even though I experienced fear at the thought.  I had never used social media before.  I still have much to learn and should be sharing much more; but one step at a time.  The great thing about Wealthy Affiliate is that you can learn at your own pace.

 

I am well aware that there are many members who have moved forward much faster than me; but that is okay.  Slowly and steadily a determined turtle won over the speeding, hopping bunny.  I’m hoping that I will be the determined turtle, slowly but steadily moving toward my dream.

 

 

There are currently 104 posts on the WA community site that I have written and published.  I have learned a lot about writing from composing these little blogs, and reading other member’s blogs.  I have gained confidence from other members liking and commenting on my creations.

 

It has been quite a journey.  I have absorbed a vast amount of information, even though I am moving through my lessons like a turtle.  I wanted to finish my Certification courses before I was here a year; but it’s okay that I haven’t.  I will soon be finished.  I am on Course 5, which is the last course.  Then I will start working on Boot Camp again.

 

 

Fear held me back from creating a training for a long time.  I felt most of the things I knew about had been covered over and over again.  I had a struggle coming up with a subject; but I did.  I created my first training.  I should be creating another one soon.  Here it is, if it is of interest to you.

 

https://my.wealthyaffiliate.com/training/how-to-edit-and-delete-blogs-and-comments-on-the-wa-forum/a_aid/47e7b7c8

 

What I am trying to tell you is this:  If I can come in as a newborn baby to internet affiliate marketing and learn what I have learned, and accomplished what I have accomplished; then so can you!  And probably much faster and better than me.  🙂

 

If you would like to start this journey for yourself, today is the day.  There is no need to wait.  You could be on your own journey to fulfilling your dreams. 

 

You can continue to follow me on my journey, or you can start for free at Wealthy Affiliate.  Just click below to get started. Today is the first day of the rest of your life!  Make it count for something.  Learn, grow, gain friends and confidence and use your creative side at Wealthy Affiliate.

 

 

 

 

If you have questions or comments pertaining to this post; please use the comment section below.  Your thoughts are important to me, and I will answer all comments in a timely manner.

 

Come back again soon.  My door is always open and I love company!

 

At your service,

Jeannie

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Retired and Bored – Solutions to Boredom

You retired with an expectation of life being so much better.  But what happened?  Why are you just sitting in front of your television?  What happened that has caused you to be retired and bored?

 

The first few weeks of retirement were great.  You basked in the fact that you could sleep in.  You loved the fact that you no longer had to fight the traffic and deal with the office drama.  Doing what you wanted, when you wanted, was a novelty.  But it wore off.  Now you wake up thinking, “What will I do today?”

 

Perhaps you thought you would travel; but realized that the high costs of travel precludes that, on your fixed income. 

 

Or you thought you would have more time for shopping; but lost interest in that when you found your house cluttering up with unnecessary purchases.

 

Maybe you were thinking of taking up a hobby; but now you can’t decide what might interest you. Perhaps this post would help.

 

5 Step Process for Choosing and Implementing the Best Hobbies For You

Or maybe you thought you would have more time for your housework or yard work; but now you find you are done before lunch, and the rest of the day looms ahead of you.

 

Perhaps you were going to get into better shape; but you find you have no energy to follow through.

 

Too Tired to be Inspired

If any of the above sounds familiar; then read on for some possible solutions.

 

Causes of boredom and possible solutions

 

Poor health

 

Poor health and inaction go together.  It is good to have regular checkups to make sure there is nothing seriously wrong.

 

Possible solutions:

 

Many times our poor health has to do with our eating and exercising habits.  Those things can be changed.  It isn’t easy; but it is worth the effort for the difference in the way we feel.

 

If you are battling something more serious, such as cancer, heart disease, diabetes, or MS; then you may need to work around your illness.  When you are having a bad day; plan for activities to do on a better day.  Then when you have a day when you feel better; you already have a plan in place to enjoy your day. 

 

 

Be sure you have a support system; or someone to help you on the bad days, and someone to enjoy the good days with.  If you have grandchildren or great grandchildren; this can be a bright light shining into your life.

 

Grandchildren Keep us Young

Depression

 

If you are depressed, it is hard to force yourself to do anything.  But forcing yourself to do something, sometimes brings some relief.  You are likely to isolate yourself when you are depressed; but being with supportive friends and family can ease the pain.

 

Possible solutions:

 

Try to reach out a helping hand to someone else.  You’ll find your problems seems smaller when you are helping someone else with theirs. 

 

Remember, depression is a temporary problem; no matter how permanent it seems.  Seek help and don’t give up hope for a better tomorrow.

 

 

Mourning

 

Many of us lose loved ones as we grow older.  Mourning is a process that we need to go through after a loss.  Time doesn’t heal all wounds; but it can lessen the impact the losses have on our lives.

 

 

When we are in mourning; it is sometimes hard to have an interest in doing anything.  We no longer remember our purpose in life.  We are just dwelling in the pain of loss.

 

Possible solutions:

 

It is important to let yourself feel the loss, go through the stages of grief in your own time, and allow yourself some time to heal.

 

 

But it is also important to realize that life goes on.  Find a new beginning, a new purpose or a new interest.  This was the end of this life and the beginning of another for your loved one; but you are still alive here on this earth.  Your loved one would want you to go on living.  Don’t bury yourself when you bury a loved one.

 

After the death of my parents; I found my new beginning at Wealthy Affiliate (for a new purpose), and by seeking a deeper relationship with Christ.

 

Premium Member Review: How About Wealthy Affiliate

 

Loneliness

 

When we lose someone who has occupied a very important place in our heart and lives, we are bound to feel lonely for a time.  It is a kind of loneliness that doesn’t lesson when we are in a crowd. 

 

But isolating ourselves is not the answer.  We must actively seek for a sense of purpose and look for a new passion in life.  I needed a new purpose after my parents; who I was taking care of, died within 8 months of each other.  I found that and more at Wealthy Affiliate.  To learn more click on the link below:

 

 

Possible solutions:

 

When we are lonely, we can feel that no one really cares about us.  This can lead to depression.  We need to find something to fill the void. 

 

However trying to fill that void with another person too soon, can lead us in to relationships that we later regret.

 

Moving into a closer relationship with God at this time can be beneficial.  Seeking out a church and becoming involved can be a great source of comfort and sometimes a good support system.

 

 

Indecision

 

Sometimes we are paralyzed by indecision.  What do we want to do?  What can we do?  Maybe we could get involved in “this”, or maybe “that”.

 

I want a vacation; but where?  What mode of transportation?  How much can I spend?  Who will go with me?, etc.

 

I need to improve my eating habits.  How will I do that?  When will I do that?  Tomorrow, next week, next month?

 

Possible solutions:

 

Indecision can become a way of life if we let it.  It can cause us to not do anything because of fear of doing the wrong thing.

 

 

It may help to remember that a decision is not necessarily right or wrong, so much as it is up to us to make of it what we want from it.  Our reaction to the decisions we make is what is important; not what others think of our decision. 

 

Making any decision is better than making no decision.

 

Conquering Procrastination

Writing down a list of pros and cons could help.  Talking to those close to you may help.  Asking God for help sometimes results in an answer.  The most important thing is to “make an educated decision” and then deal with it positively.

 

 

Lack of action

 

Many things can cause us to suffer from inaction.  Indecision, depression, mourning, loss, health concerns, loneliness, etc.

 

Possible solutions:

 

The only cure for inaction is ACTION.

 

It is not so important what you do, as long as you do SOMETHING!  Making a list of things you want to do may help.  Pick the easiest and quickest thing on the list if you need to; but do something.

 

Doing one thing can cause you to begin another.  As we begin some action, we will stir up confidence to do something else.  And remember, today is the only day we can live in, and the best time to start something new.

 

Lack of faith in God and church family

 

Not having a relationship with God is sometimes a cause of boredom.  It results in us seeing the world we live in only with earthly eyes.  However there is another whole dimension out there called the spiritual realm.  When we look at our lives through a spiritual lens; it is a much different picture.

 

Possible solutions:

 

Forming a relationship with God is very important.

 

Rejoice in the Lord Always

 

There are many people who go to church every Sunday; but they have little, or no relationship with God.  When hard things happen in their lives; they are unprepared; and sometimes even blame God. 

 

But if we really take the time and effort to get to know God; we realize that He is love, and He cares for us in a way that no earthy person is capable of caring for us.  He has promised that He would never leave us or forsake us.

 

Being involved in a God fearing church can offer a great support system.  If you arrive late and leave early; and try to avoid talking to anyone; you will never find that support. 

 

 

If you smile and show an interest in others, you will build sustaining friendships.  As you reach out to support them; they will in turn reach out in support to you. 

 

 

That’s why God wants us to attend church; because we can uplift, pray for, and encourage each other.

 

This post is a reflection of some thoughts I have on this subject.  If they are any help to you; take and use them.  If you have some thoughts or questions pertaining to the subject of being retired and bored; please leave a comment in the comment section below.

 

I hope this post has helped someone who is bored, depressed, or lacking in faith, to see a way better way; and to have hope for a better future.

 

Remember, everything in this life is finite.  It has a beginning, a middle and an end.  So if you are going through a hard circumstance in your life, you can know that it is temporary.

 

This too shall pass!

 

 

  • Most of the photographs used in this post are courtesy of Pixabay.
  • The opinions in this post are from the author, and are not meant to be taken as medical or psychiatric advice.

 

At your service,

Jeannie

 

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Celebrating Small and Large Victories

Do you celebrate your victories?  We all celebrate the large victories; but sometimes the small victories slip by without us even noticing.  There is so much negativity in life sometimes.  It is a very positive action to celebrate small and large victories.  It is another way of counting your blessings.  Celebrating the good things in life will promote a positive and thankful attitude.  Nothing good is ever gained by being dismal, gloomy and negative.

 

Points to remember when contemplating celebrating our victories:

 

  • Notice small victories

 

Sometimes we overlook small victories.  If they are overlooked or taken for granted; then we will not be able to celebrate them; or count them as blessings.  Train yourself to start noticing small things.

 

Maybe you have trouble remembering to make your bed; but you made it first thing this morning.  Celebrate!  Or maybe you have been forgetting your friend’s birthday for years; but this year, you remembered.  Celebrate!  Perhaps you have been wanting to get more exercise; and you have managed to go for a walk every day this week.  Celebrate!  Notice the small victories, and celebrate them.

 

  • Start a blessings book

 

 

One way of coaxing ourselves to remember and celebrate the small victories is to start a blessings book.  Write down when you have had a victory over something.  No matter how small, jot it down, and celebrate it.  If you are able to be faithful to writing your victories in your blessings book; you will love reading it later.  It will strengthen your faith to see where you were, six months or a year ago, and where you are now.

 

When you are down and feel like you haven’t had a victory in a while; take out your blessings book and celebrate the victories you find within it’s pages.  You will find yourself becoming thankful for all the small blessings in your life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  • Replace negative with positive

 

Make a habit of recognizing negative thoughts; and replacing them with positive or thankful thoughts.  We don’t always get to choose what happens to us; but we always have a choice of how we react to what has happened.  If we react with negativity; and make no effort to look for something positive, then the circumstances control us.  If we look and find something to be positive about, and celebrate the positive; then we are more in control of the circumstances.

 

  • Stomp yourself out of the pit

 

 

Circumstances in our life can sometimes throw us in to a pit of despair.  We can’t always see a way out of the pit.  There is a story about a donkey that I heard some time ago.  It is told in different ways; but I like this video.  I hope you enjoy listening; and that the message has a profound affect on how you view adverse situations from now on.

 

 

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  • Celebrate Christ’s victory

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you can’t see any victories in your life, large or small; celebrate the victory of Christ.  Celebrate your salvation.  Celebrate the fact that you are not alone.  For He has promised to never leave us or forsake us.

 

If you are not saved, celebrate the fact that you have an open invitation from a savior that loved you enough to die for you.  Imagine having a friend that loves you that much.  Think of having a friend, that not only forgave your sins; but took the punishment for them so that you could be free.  The only friend that can wash your sins away, and make you white as snow.  Celebrate having that kind of friend.

 

  • Celebrate someone else’s victory

 

 

So many times we feel jealous or envious of someone else’s victory; when instead we could forget about ourselves, and celebrate it with them.  They say misery loves company; but victory loves company to celebrate with them, too.  And most times as you celebrate their victory with them, you will find your own heart filling with joy to match theirs.  Try it sometime and see the blessing you will be giving and receiving in return.

 

  • Help someone to achieve a victory

 

 

There is great joy to be had by helping someone else achieve a victory and watching them celebrate.  Be alert to ways you can help others to achieve a victory.  Perhaps there is something that you have learned that will help them achieve their victory, if you share it with them.  Or maybe there is some way that you can be of service to them that would help.  Perhaps you know of an organization that you could make them aware of, to help them achieve their victory.

 

 

In this spirit, I know of an organization that could help you learn internet affiliate marketing.  You can get started for free.  You will receive 7 free lessons, 2 free web sites and a free starter membership.  You will find many small and large victories to celebrate.  There is a community of helpful people ready to help you; and there are members that will need help that you can provide.  We celebrate our own victories and the victories of each other.  We learn and grow together.

 

There is no better training on the web than you can get at Wealthy Affiliate, in my opinion.  You will learn all the skills you need to be a successful affiliate marketer.  You will learn how to build your own website.  I celebrated that one.  I was so excited.  You will learn how to publish posts and pages to your website.  You will learn methods to get traffic to your website.

 

You will learn how to write blogs on the WA site, and to comment and answer comments on other people’s blogs.  You will be amazed to be talking to people from all over the world.  You will meet people of other nationalities and cultures.  All the while learning from the lessons.

 

Wealthy Affiliate doesn’t promise that you will get rich overnight; because it just isn’t possible.  Wealthy Affiliate does promise to teach you all the skills you will need to build a successful internet marketing business. 

 

You will need to put in the time to learn and apply what you have learned.  You need to be patient to see results.  But you will see results, and you will be able to celebrate all the small victories along the way.

 

Just click on the link below to learn more.

 

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I hope that this post has been an inspiration for you to start celebrating small and large victories in your life.  If you look closely enough, you can always find something to celebrate.  The song says: Accentuate the positive; eliminate the negative.

 

Enjoy this as sung by Bing Crosby & the Andrews Sisters.  I found it on YouTube to share with you.  🙂

 

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Thanks for stopping by.  I hope you come again soon.  I love company.  I will be posting weekly, so there will be something new waiting for you to read.  My door is always open.

 

At your service,

Jeannie

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Choose Your Battles – Save Your Life

Hello retirees and other cherished readers,

 

Do you ever get so angry that your face gets hot and your heart starts racing?  Do you sometimes react to that anger by lashing out at those you love, and saying words that wound and hurt?  Of course later, when you’ve cooled off and calmed down, you wish it was possible to take back those hurtful words.  In this post we are going to delve into several aspects of this rage; and see if we can find a way to “choose your battles” and maybe save your life in the process.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Feeling angry is a natural human emotion and not necessarily good or bad.  Our actions and reactions to anger is what makes it positive or negative.  Uncontrolled anger or rage, usually ends up being negative and causing many problems.  Not only will it cause relationship problems, (and it most certainly will); it can also adveresly effect the health of the person unleashing the rage; and the person (usually someone close to them) who is routinely the brunt of their anger.

 

How does anger effect our health?

 

  • Heart – The likelihood of suffering a heart attack doubles in the two hours after an angry outburst.  Feeling angry and not expressing it in healthy ways, or repressing it, can also be detrimental to heart health.  When anger expressed and dealt with in constructive ways; it is diffused and is not detrimental to heart health.

 

 

  • Stroke – After an angry outburst, the person is more likely suffer a stroke (a blood clot that goes to the brain).  There are ways to cope with anger besides exploding.  We will discuss that later on.

 

  • Depression – People who are prone to angry outbursts are more prone to be depressed.  They see the world though a screen of anger and negativity.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  • Immune system – People who are angry a lot of the time and have trouble managing or expressing their anger, without an angry outburst, tend to be sick more often.  Their immune system is affected by their anger.

 

  • Headaches – Did you ever get angry and upset and later you came down with a bad headache?  Anger provokes a flight or fight response.  The adrenal glands flood the body with stress hormones. Your muscles tense, your heart races, your mind is sharpened and focused.  A headache is just one of the after-affects.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  • High blood pressure –  Anger causes an increase in blood pressure.  If you are frequently angry, you may suffer with chronic high blood pressure.

 

  • Increased anxiety – Anger and anxiety go together like the proverbial horse and carriage.  Uncontrolled anger can increase anxiety and worry.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  • Skin conditions –  Anger and anxiety can sometimes contribute to skin conditions like exema, rashes and hives.

 

There are many things you can do to suffer from less anger; and ways to release your anger in productive and even helpful ways.  I am going to discuss how you can choose your battles; to not let your anger rule your life and ruin your health.

 

Choose your battles

 

When you feel yourself giving way to anger; there are some things you can do.  You are really not as helpless and controlled by your anger as you think you are.  If you learn some constructive ways of dealing with anger; you are more free to “pick your battles”.  You will be better equipped to decide how to handle your anger in constructive ways; and begin to know what is important enough to warrant expressing your anger toward a solution to the problem.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  • Think before acting –  You have heard the saying “Count to 10 when you are angry”.  There is a little truth in that.  While you are counting you may cool down enough to begin thinking.  Ask yourself if the situation you are angry about is really as important as it seems to be at this moment.  Think about the other person involved.  Try to put yourself in their shoes.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  • Walk away –  If you are very angry at someone, perhaps this isn’t the ideal time to confront them about it.  Give yourself some time to digest the anger; and find a way to release it in a positive manner.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  • Pray – I have often found that prayer can be a solution to my anger.  As I pray about the situation; I feel my anger start to subside.  As my spirit begins to calm in His presence; I am more prone to be able to forgive. Also, talking things over with God can give me a different perspective.  Many times I am able to just lay the anger, problem and circumstance at His feet, and walk away lighter without it.  Other times, I find myself finding a way to confront, in love, and work toward a solution to the situation.

 

 

  • Keep busy –  If you are a person who is prone to anger; you may find that keeping busy is a way to keep your mind occupied positively.  There will be less time to feel angry.  I keep busy with my family, church activities, my music and songwriting, and by learning more about internet affiliate marketing at Wealthy Affiliate.

 

 

 

  • Grow a thicker skin – Most anger comes from a feeling of being slighted, ignored, devalued or unappreciated.  Learn to talk yourself through these feelings and to a place where you don’t get upset so easily.  Attempting to understand the other person’s point of view or reasoning may help.

 

 

 

 

 

 

  • Forgive – One of the things anger feeds on is unforgiveness.  If we become more forgiving and less judgemental; we will find that much of our anger will dissipate.  Forgiveness diffuses anger.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anger feeds on unforgiveness.

 

  • Judge less – Judgemental people are usually angry people.  Generally speaking, people will live their lives the way they want to.  If you judge them harshly, or continually confront them; they will eventually move away from you and migrate to people who don’t judge them so harshly.  How have you won in this situation?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  • Think positive– If we learn think positive more of the time, there won’t be as much time for negative anger.  Negative thinking is another thing that anger feeds on.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If we take away the things that anger feeds on, it will begin to lose it’s power over us.  Think positive and count your blessings.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  • Smile and laugh –  Laughter can diffuse anger.  Have you ever been in a heated argument with someone; and something strikes you as funny.  When you start laughing, you find your anger dissipating.  People who smile and laugh more, are less prone to be angry and anxious.

 

 

  • Be more kind, and less “right” –  Is being right more important to you than your relationships with other people?  You will find yourself being angry, because after all, you are “right”.  Has your life become a yardstick to judge right and wrong, and good and bad?  Why is it so important that everyone knows you are right?  That leaves only one place for the other person to be; and that is WRONG.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  • Become less entitled – If you are constantly judging people by whether or not they are fulfilling your needs; you will be angry a lot.  See what you can do to help others, and think less about whether your needs are being met.

 

When you have thought through your anger, prayed about it, and diagnosed the problem; you will find that you may be able to forgive and forget without malice.  Many problems don’t seem as big if we give them a few days.  If you still feel that this is a problem you must confront; then you will be able to confront the person who is the object of your anger in a more constructive or caring way.

 

 

If you would like to read more about controlling your emotions, please click on the link below.

 

Managing Your Emotions

 

Thank you for stopping by.  I hope this post has been helpful to someone who is dealing with an anger problem.  Stop by again soon.  I will be writing new material weekly.

 

Please use the comment section below to express your ideas or feelings about the subject of this post.  If you have any questions, I will answer to the best of my ability.

 

At your service,

Jeannie

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What is a Father?

I’d like to invite you to come along with me with me as I search for an answer to the question, “What is a Father?”

 

The approaching Father’s day weekend, has turned my thoughts to my own father who has gone to be with God, and my mother, in Heaven.  This post is in honor of my father, Dixon Waite.

 

Happy Father’s Day in Heaven, Pappy.

 

 

If you like poetry, you may read the poem I wrote for my father yesterday.  Here is the location.  Just copy and paste into your search engine.

 

https://my.wealthyaffiliate.com/jeanbrickley/blog/you-are-there-happy-fathers-day

 

I’d also like to take this opportunity to say

Happy Father’s Day to all you Dads out there.

 

 

What is a father?

 

As I contemplated this question, so many ideas came to mind. I will share some of my thoughts later on; but I thought you might like to see what Wikipedia has to say about fathers.

 

Father

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

A father is the male parent of a child. Besides the paternal bonds of a father to his children, the father may have a parental legal and social relationship with the child that carries with it certain rights and obligations. An adoptive father is a male who has become the child’s parent through the legal process of adoption. A biological father is the male genetic contributor to the creation of the baby, through sexual intercourse or sperm donation. A biological father may have legal obligations to a child not raised by him, such as an obligation of monetary support. A putative father is a man whose biological relationship to a child is alleged but has not been established. A stepfather is a male who is the husband of a child’s mother and they may form a family unit, but who generally does not have the legal rights and responsibilities of a parent in relation to the child.

 

The adjective “paternal” refers to a father and comparatively to “maternal” for a mother. The verb “to father” means to procreate or to sire a child from which also derives the noun “fathering”. Biological fathers determine the sex of their child through a sperm cell which either contains an X chromosome (female), or Y chromosome (male).[1] Related terms of endearment are dad (dada, daddy), papa, pappa, papasita, (pa, pap) and pop. A male role model that children can look up to is sometimes referred to as a father-figure.

 

My thoughts about fathers

 

It is my opinion that fathering a child does make a man a true father. He gave his sperm to mingle with the mother’s eggs to produce an offspring; and is therefore called the child’s father.  But if he is not present and actively involved in the child’s life, he is not fulfilling the role of father.

 

A father in the truest sense of the word is one who is there, mentoring, teaching, nurturing, and cultivating a relationship. This person could be the biological father, an adoptive father, a step father, a grandfather, or just a mentoring person who is actively involved with raising the child.

 

 

 

We tend to think that the mother is the important person in the home, at least to the children. She is the nurturing one, right? She is the one that carries us around on her hip, kisses our hurts, rocks us to sleep and tells us how much she loves us. (If she is a good mother that is)

 

 

 

But children need both parents. That’s why God created marriage. Both parents have different attributes to contribute; and differences in how they interact with their children.

 

The dad is the one who carries them on his shoulders, “the bigger than life” figure that sees to it that they obey, the one who teaches them to play ball and ride a bike, and to use their brain for something other than a hat rack.  🙂

 

In an ideal world, there are two biological parents, who are married, raising their children to be healthy, happy and productive adults.

 

But…we don’t live in an ideal world.

 

So many children are being raised in one parent homes these days. Some men father children with no love in their heart for the mother of their baby. The mother is left with a choice of abortion, or raising the baby alone. The father figure for this unfortunate child is MIA.

 

 

Many couples choose not to marry even though they are living together.  So many, in fact, that living together without being married is not considered a sin by most young people.

 

They start having children without being bound by marriage to each other. It is my opinion that this family is building their house on the sand; because not having a marriage certificate, leaves separating an even more viable option.

 

Families are broken and torn apart. Sometimes the marriage vows are broken by infidelity; other times because of selfishness, unforgiveness, incompatabilty or abuse. In some cases, new families are formed in which one adult is someone other than a biological parent.

 

Children are expected to adjust to their new “family”, which may include other children who are not their siblings. There are jealousies, disagreements and sometimes physical fights between biological brothers and sisters while growing up.  Sometimes the hard feelings linger into adulthood.

 

But adjusting to living with other children, who are not their biological siblings, can be a nightmare for children who are already dealing with the heartbreak of divorce.

 

Single parent homes, though sometimes unavoidable, are not ideal circumstances for the children. Usually it is the mother who is the single parent.

 

She is forced into the impossible situation of being both mother and father to her children.  Without the father figure present, there is double the strain of raising children alone; while being the sole breadwinner.

 

 

Children from single parent homes are more likely to be depressed and have a lower self esteem.  They often don’t do well in school.  They may begin to use drugs or alcohol as a means of coping.

 

Fathers are important in the family unit.

 

Father’s react differently towards their children than mothers.  These sometimes opposite behaviors by their parents show the children that men and women are different.  They look different. They act different.  They have different outlooks and coping mechanisms. This is very important to their children’s development.

 

 

Fathers play with more gusto than mothers.  During this kind of rougher play, children learn what are acceptable behaviors.  For instance: biting, kicking and other violent behavior is not tolerated.  And they learn self control by being told to settle down when someone has had enough.

 

 

Fathers encourage children to take risks that their mother may discourage; like playing sports for instance. These kind of risks can build confidence and open a whole new world of experiences to a child.

 

 

 

Fathers are usually the ones urging the child to swing higher, run faster, or climb a little higher.  This encourages the child to stretch their boundaries and try new things.

 

Children gain confidence, and a wealth of experience, by succeeding or failing, while trying new endeavors.  All the while being cheered on by a proud father.

 

 

 

Fathers seek to prepare their children for life and it’s challenges and disappointments.  They explain to their children the consequences of certain behaviors.  For instance:  “If you don’t be nice and share with your friends; they won’t want to play with you anymore.”  Or, “If you don’t study and do well in school; you won’t get into a good college.”

 

 

 

Gender Identification

 

Having a father active and present in the home helps the child establish good gender identification.

 

Girls with actively involved fathers are more likely to have healthier relationships with men later in life.  They learn from their fathers how they should be treated and what behaviors are appropriate and what are not.

 

 

Boys who have actively present fathers learn about what it means to be a man from their fathers.  They will learn to understand the world from a masculine point of view.

 

They are less likely to be violent; because they have been taught by their fathers to channel their strength and masculinity in more positive directions.  An actively present father helps the son to understand proper sexuality, and male hygiene and behavior; even if only by observation.

 

 

 

Involved fathers can bring a dynamic into the home; that no other person can.  They teach the children in ways that no other person can duplicate.

 

 

Fathers, make no mistake.  You are important to your children’s future.  Actively involved and physically present fathers have a role to play in the family dynamic, that no other person can duplicate.  What you teach your children and what they learn from observing you, and their mother, will form and shape them into the adult that they will become.

 

 

If you have a father who is still alive; please acknowledge them this Father’s Day.  Fathers get so little appreciation.  And they may feel that their contribution to the family is not important.  They need to know that you love them and are proud of them.  While they are still present on this earth, wish them a Happy Father’s Day this weekend.

 

 

Please feel free to leave a comment in the comment section below.  Your thoughts, feelings and questions are important to me.  I will answer all comments as soon as possible.  Thank you.

 

Thank you for stopping in.  I love company and my door is always open.  Come back again soon.  I post every week; so there will be something new here for you on your next visit.

 

At your service,

Jeannie

 

 

 

 

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1000 Followers and Finished Certification Level 4 of Training- Wealthy Affiliate

Hello friends.

 

In keeping with my promise to take you along on my WA journey; I am writing this update reporting that I now have 1000 followers and I have completed Level 4 of my training.

 

 

My followers on the Wealthy Affiliate site has grown to 1000.  Wealthy Affiliate hosts a community of members.  When we follow each other we then have access each other’s profiles. We are then able to read each other’s blogs, like them and comment on them.  We encourage each other in these ways.  The community is great and I have made many new friends.

 

The ranking system is based on how many posts we write, how many comments we give and receive, and the  amount of likes we get, etc.

 

New members receive a very high rank coming in.  It goes down as they participate by writing blogs and commenting.  At first it requires very little time; but as we acquire more and more followers, the amount of time we spend in the community can become addictive and overwhelming.

 

 

The more followers we acquire, the more time is required; but our rank goes down.  As per my posts below; there are milestones to meet along the way  Such as Top 200, Top 100, Top 50 and then Ambassador.

 

https://thesuccessfulretiree.com/three-months-at-wealthy-affiliate

https://thesuccessfulretiree.com/top-100-at-wealthy-affiliate

https://thesuccessfulretiree.com/another-wealthy-affiliate-goal-reached-top-50

 

I was in the Top 50; but it was taking a lot of time and my website was suffering.  I started spending more time on my website and lessons, and less on community pursuits.  Since then I have been going steadily up in ranking.  I’m somewhere in the 90’s now.  I had to make a decision of what was most important.  My website won out.

 

 

The other achievement I would like to mention is that I have completed Level four of my lessons.  We are rewarded with a badge for each level we complete.  You can see my badges on my profile here:

 

https://my.wealthyaffiliate.com/jeanbrickley

 

Level 4 of my lessons seemed more difficult for me, because it dealt with getting involved in social media to promote your business.

 

I was completely green to Social Media.  To tell the truth.  I never really wanted to be a part of social media.  Since the lessons required that I get involved for the sake of my site, I had to start learning from my green state.

 

It has been a challenge learning to start using social media and also to begin to change my mindset concerning the use of it.  I still don’t understand it all; but I’m beginning to make some headway.

 

I am now a member of four social media platforms.  I will list them below if you wish to follow me.  I will return any follows as soon as possible.  I have posted on them all; but I still have a LOT to learn.

 

https://www.pinterest.com/JBrickley1226/

https://plus.google.com/u/0/102488191943987614374

https://twitter.com/JLBrickley10

https://plus.google.com/102488191943987614374

 

I will keep learning and applying what I learned until I am able to use social media in the best way to promote my site.

 

You may continue to follow me on my journey; or start your own journey with Wealthy Affiliate for free.  All you need to do is sign up.

 

 

You don’t pay anything to get started.  You will receive a free starter membership, 2 free websites and 7 days of free lessons.  All this can be yours for free:  just click on the link below.

 

 

Today is the first day of the rest of your life.  Make it count for something.  Learn, grow and create with Wealthy Affiliate.  We will welcome you and help you learn and grow.

 

Learning is even more important as we get older.  Retirement should not be a time to stop learning and growing.

 

Remember, a moving stream is clear and pure.  But a still body of water becomes stagnant and unhealthy.

 

 

If we don’t use our brain to learn new things, and we aren’t creating or using our talents and abilities; our life can become stagnant.

 

If we aren’t learning and growing; then we get bogged down in emotions and health concerns.  Our mind is always busy.  If we don’t feed it new food; it chews and chews on petty everyday problems and concerns.

 

        

The same applies to our bodies.  If we don’t keep moving, we will lose our ability to move.

 

When we are young, we have an abundance of energy, and most children are in a state of perpetual motion.

 

But as we get older and begin to get aches and pains and experience a decrease in our natural energy, it becomes harder to choose to move.

 

If we give in and become a couch potato; our bodies will suffer from our lack of movement.  Being sedentary results in losing muscle, gaining fat and putting us in a position to acquire health conditions like diabetes and heart disease.

 

 

We need to keep learning, reading and staying mentally active to keep our brains from getting stagnant.  Wealthy Affiliate is one way to do that; but certainly not the only way.

 

 

We can read, do crossword puzzles, and other brain games to keep our brains active and healthy.

 

We can come up with some kind of exercise we enjoy, and do it regularly, to keep our bodies active and healthy.  Walking is one of the best exercises when we get older.

 

 

 

Thank you for joining me on my Wealthy Affiliate journey. This concludes the most current update on my progress. I will be giving you another progress update within a couple months.

 

If you have any questions or comments, please use the comment section below.  Your thoughts are important to me, and I will answer all comments.

 

Thank you for visiting.  Come again soon.  I love company and my door is always open.

 

At your service,

Jeannie

 

 

 

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Who Am I

Hi retirees and other cherished friends.

It seems that each one of us, at one time or another, has asked the question, “Who am I?”.  It seems like a simple enough question; but many of us don’t really know who we are, what our talents are, what we enjoy and what we want from ourselves, and from life in general.

When we retire we have more time to ponder this question.  But how do we go about finding out who we really are?  Sometimes we are so caught up in trying to be what others want us to be; it is hard to separate our own desires for our lives from the desires of those who would like to tell us who to be.

Just remember, it is your life.  No one else can live it for you.  We only get one chance here on earth to live the life we want.  If we let others dictate to us who we are or should be; there won’t be time to be the person God meant us to be.

I am not an expert in the art of self discovery, and remaining true to ourselves; but I do have some ideas that might spark your inner desire to find out who you are and what you want.  Use my ideas to craft your own plan of self knowledge and self endowments.

 

What are endowments?

Every human has four endowments – self awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom… The power to choose, to respond, to change. Stephen Covey

Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/s/stephencov138246.html

 

Endowment (in philosophy) refers to the innate capacities of an individual, group, or institution. An individual’s “natural endowment” can be abilities, such as intelligence or strength, given at birth. An individual’s “social endowment” can be abilities attributed to the individual’s position within a social hierarchy.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Endowment_(philosophy)

 

According to Stephen R. Covey, author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, there are seven human endowments.

 

 

I haven’t read the aforementioned book; but I’m putting it on my “must read” list.  Please don’t confuse my humble writings with the book written by Stephen R Covey, The Seven Habits of Successful People.  I recommend you read it to find out what he has to say.

I am borrowing Mr. Covey’s primary and secondary endowments as a place to start our investigation of self awareness and self actualization.  Other than the borrowed headings; the following are my own ideas and writings and not to be confused with his book.

 

Primary endowments

 

Self awareness or self knowledge

Many people seem to fear cultivating self awareness and self knowledge; because they think it is being self-centered or conceited.  In reality, we must know ourselves and love ourselves before we can truly know and love others.  Asking the question “Who am I” is a start in the right direction.

Imagination and conscience

Imagination is a wonderful God given gift.  We can imagine our future in great detail if we put our minds to it.  Imagination is neither good nor bad; but we can use it for either.

That is where conscience comes in.  God also gives us a conscience and when it is in proper working order; it will tell us the difference between right or wrong.  However, if it is ignored over and over; like an engine that hasn’t been greased, it is not reliable.

Learn to use your imagination for good.  Imagine what you want and how you will go about getting obtaining it.  Imagine a better YOU.  Then believe that you can achieve what you imagined.

 

Volition or willpower

There is not much good in imagining if we do not have the volition or the willpower to carry it through to reality.  Volition and willpower are also God given traits.

Babies learn as they grow.  They find out if they can do something by trying it.  As they grow, restraints are put on that spontaneity, mostly for safety sake.  But sometimes so many restraints have been put on us in the past; that we begin to think we can’t do anything.  Or we have been taught that failure is a bad thing; so the more we fail, the less desire we have to try new things.

Failure is neither good nor bad in itself.  It is what we make of it.  We can take it as a defeat, and a reason to stop trying; or we can use it as a stepping stone or a learning experience, and a catalyst to go on to something bigger and better.

 

Secondary endowments

 

An abundance mentality

I’m not sure how Mr. Covey meant this; but here is my take.  Some think that having more is better.  The newest car, the best house, many possessions will make the person.  But possessions are empty of life and will not satisfy for long.

The quest for more and more material possessions is empty and meaningless in the larger scheme of things.  Greed has been the downfall of many people; and can take any of us to places we never meant to go.

 

God wants to give us abundance of peace and joy and make our life fruitful and satisfying.  It has nothing to do with possessions or earthy status.

However, the other side of the coin is; that some think that there is no way out of the poverty they have always known.  They see nothing in their future that will take them beyond the valley to the mountaintop.  God can give hope, comfort and new life in this kind of circumstance.

 

Courage and consideration

Some people have lots of courage, and little consideration.  Others have an abundance of consideration and not much courage.  I think God meant for us to have a measured amount of each.

If we have courage; and little consideration, we will go after what we want; while running rough shod over others to get there.  We may find it is an empty victory in view of the loss of self respect, and the inability of the material to satisfy.

 

If we have consideration of others, and always put others needs above anything to do with self; we may find that we will begin to resent those to whom we offered our consideration.  This is not to say that we should not put others first.  The Bible says that we are to put others needs before our own.

What I am saying is; we are God’s people too.  If we don’t respect and love ourselves enough to do what we need to do; then we are not living up to our full God given potential.  We need a healthy balance of courage and consideration.

Creativity

God created us in His image.  He is the creator; but he meant for us to be creators too.  He gave each of us creativity in different areas.  He put within in us a desire to create.  If we haven’t allowed life and circumstances to stifle the creativity within us, we will be creative and create as God intended.  See my blog for more on this subject.

https://my.wealthyaffiliate.com/jeanbrickley/blog/we-were-made-to-be-creative

 

Self renewal

There are times that life throws us a curve ball.  Circumstances can occur that present us with a need to re-invent ourselves.  Some circumstances that are life changing are:  graduating from high school or college, marriage, divorce, job loss, health conditions, emotional breakdowns, etc.

We tend to think of some of these as endings; but they can also be new beginnings.  We have the God given capacity to rise above disagreeable circumstances and begin a renewal within ourselves.  God has said that He would give those who believe in Him a renewed mind; and that all things would become new.  Allow Him to begin that work in you, and He will make you into the person He created you to be.

 

 

Ten questions to ask yourself toward answering the question”Who am I?”

 

  1. What are my strengths?

  2. What are my weaknesses?

  3. What are my abilities?

  4. What are my hobbies?

  5. What makes me happy?

  6. What makes me sad?

  7. What angers or upsets me and why?

  8. Who do I admire and why?

  9. What are my passions?

  10. What are my convictions and spiritual connections?

I hope this post has sparked an interest within my readers to begin a search, within their own lives, for the answer to the question, Who am I?.  Self discovery and self actualization can be the beginning of a new and more fulfilling life.

Experiment by making up your own questions to ask of yourself.  Begin to know yourself on a deeper level.  Try to understand why you do some things and don’t do others.  What is behind some of the emotion you feel?  Look at the people you admire and decide what it is that attracts you to them.  Is this trait something you could cultivate within yourself?

Please feel free to leave a comment or question in the comment section below.  The thoughts and questions of my readers are important to me.  I will be sure to comment in return.

 

At your service,

Jeannie

 

 

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How do I Make Extra Money at Home

Maybe you are independently wealthy; and you don’t need extra money. Or maybe you are healthy enough to go out and work outside the home after your retirement. But if you are in need of extra cash and you don’t want to (or can’t) work outside the home anymore; then you may be asking, “How do I make extra money at home?”

 

I am assuming that since you don’t want to work outside the home; you are not up for robbing a bank either, right? Of course, if you want to look on the bright side; if you get caught you will no longer need extra money. In prison, your bills are pretty much covered. If you cherish your freedom; perhaps you would like to explore some other ways to make money at home.

 

Selling Handmade Arts and Crafts

 

 

If you are a crafty person, and have talent in the area of artwork, sewing or other crafts; you may be able to market the crafts you make. There are various outlets to sell your creations.

 

You could show your crafts at flea markets, or market them on consignment to retail stores. You would, however, have to leave your home. You could market your wares from home online with sites such as Ebay, Amazon, and Etsy. There are other sites that specialize in crafts like madeitmyself.com, meylah.com or society6.com (among others).

 

House Sitting

House sitting is a way to make some extra money; but obviously you will have to leave your own home to house sit someone else’s home. However, once you are there, you can let it become home until the wandering owners return; ready to lace your pockets with greenbacks. Not a bad deal at all.

 

The trick is finding who needs someone to house sit their house. Also, it may also mean taking care of a pet or two while you are there. Just make sure you know what is expected of you.

 

These websites may be of assistance to you if you think you would like to try house sitting. trustedhousesitters.com, mindmyhouse.com, housecarers.com or luxuryhousesitting.com (among others).

 

Pet sitting

If you enjoy pets and caring for them, this may be something you would enjoy. If the person is willing to bring the pet to your home; you wouldn’t have to leave your home; except if the care demanded it (such as walking a dog)

 

Of course, if you pride yourself on your immaculate, pet free home; this may not be the perfect money making project for you. There are many sites online, or you can look up places in your area. Here are two: petsitters.org and petsit.com

 

Sell garden produce or flowers

 

If you have a green thumb and a good sized garden plot; you may be able to sell your produce or starter plants. If you live on or near a main road, you can put up signs and watch the people pour into your yard to buy your fresh produce. If you don’t live in a good location; you may have to take your produce to market.

 

You can also start your own flowers and sell at a lower price than they sell for at the store; but you still have to have a place to sell them.  Perhaps you can make arrangements to sell them to a flower shop.

 

Sewing and mending

If you are good at sewing; you may be able to make extra money with your skill. Find a need and fill it with something you have sewn together. There are many ways to make money with this particular skill.

 

You can make new garments; such as wedding and bridesmaid dresses to sell. You can make and sell handmade quilts, if you like to hand sew. You can do embroidery very easily on the new embroidery sewing machines. The list of ways you can use this skill is practically endless.

 

If you aren’t into coming up with something new to sew together; you can always have people bring you their mending. Yes, some people still like to have torn garments mended as opposed to throwing them away.

 

You will need to advertise your services to get clientele. Hopefully, after a while, word of mouth may get you more work. Be sure this is something you like to do as well as being good at it; or it will get old quickly.

 

Making money online

 

There are many scams out there that promise that you will get rich overnight with their program, or their secret formula. They usually have a fee up front and as you get further in to the “program” there are more fees. Many people have been scammed in this way and lost money and the desire to use the internet to their advantage.

 

I won’t go into any of the different scams on here; but be aware that there are sites that will give reviews and point out scams. If you are thinking of attempting to make extra money on the internet; please be wary and check out any new venture you are contemplating by typing the name into Google; and “is it a scam”?.

 

If it sounds to good to be true;

it almost always is.

 

 

 

Internet marketing is not something you can make money overnight doing. It takes time, education, ability and most of all commitment. Some people are able to make money in a matter of months; however, it takes many people years to succeed in internet or affiliate marketing.

 

If you like working on the computer, writing, and learning new skills; and you aren’t expecting instant gratification; this may be the way for you to make extra money.

 

Wealthy Affiliate is the best online source for learning internet marketing; and you don’t pay anything to get started. You get a free starter membership, two free websites, and 7 free lessons. By the time you go through some of the lessons you know if you are interested in pursuing this way to learn how to make money online.

 

 

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There is also a community of like minded people ready and willing to encourage and help you on your journey. It is a very diverse community from many different countries and various ethnic backgrounds. But I have never experienced such a caring and helpful community.

 

If you are lonely; this community will help to fill the void. There is only one drawback. It is very addictive. You can get so caught up in reading the interesting blogs composed by your fellow members and commenting; or writing your own blogs and answering the comments; that you forget to allow enough time for lessons and working on your website. 🙂

 

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There is nowhere else you can get the quality of training that you get at Wealthy Affiliate for the amount of money you pay. If you think that you might like learning internet or affiliate marketing, why not give it a try?

 

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I hope you have found something of interest to you within this post.  Please feel free to leave a comment or a question in the comment section below.  Your thoughts and opinions are important to me.

 

This site is for you.  If you would like to read more on certain subjects and less on others; please make your opinions known in comments.  Thank you.

 

Thanks for stopping by.  Please come again soon.  I love company and my door is always open.

 

At your service,

 

Jeannie

 

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