You retired with an expectation of life being so much better. But what happened? Why are you just sitting in front of your television? What happened that has caused you to be retired and bored?
The first few weeks of retirement were great. You basked in the fact that you could sleep in. You loved the fact that you no longer had to fight the traffic and deal with the office drama. Doing what you wanted, when you wanted, was a novelty. But it wore off. Now you wake up thinking, “What will I do today?”
Perhaps you thought you would travel; but realized that the high costs of travel precludes that, on your fixed income.
Or you thought you would have more time for shopping; but lost interest in that when you found your house cluttering up with unnecessary purchases.
Maybe you were thinking of taking up a hobby; but now you can’t decide what might interest you. Perhaps this post would help.
Or maybe you thought you would have more time for your housework or yard work; but now you find you are done before lunch, and the rest of the day looms ahead of you.
Perhaps you were going to get into better shape; but you find you have no energy to follow through.
If any of the above sounds familiar; then read on for some possible solutions.
Causes of boredom and possible solutions
Poor health and inaction go together. It is good to have regular checkups to make sure there is nothing seriously wrong.
Many times our poor health has to do with our eating and exercising habits. Those things can be changed. It isn’t easy; but it is worth the effort for the difference in the way we feel.
If you are battling something more serious, such as cancer, heart disease, diabetes, or MS; then you may need to work around your illness. When you are having a bad day; plan for activities to do on a better day. Then when you have a day when you feel better; you already have a plan in place to enjoy your day.
Be sure you have a support system; or someone to help you on the bad days, and someone to enjoy the good days with. If you have grandchildren or great grandchildren; this can be a bright light shining into your life.
If you are depressed, it is hard to force yourself to do anything. But forcing yourself to do something, sometimes brings some relief. You are likely to isolate yourself when you are depressed; but being with supportive friends and family can ease the pain.
Try to reach out a helping hand to someone else. You’ll find your problems seems smaller when you are helping someone else with theirs.
Remember, depression is a temporary problem; no matter how permanent it seems. Seek help and don’t give up hope for a better tomorrow.
Many of us lose loved ones as we grow older. Mourning is a process that we need to go through after a loss. Time doesn’t heal all wounds; but it can lessen the impact the losses have on our lives.
When we are in mourning; it is sometimes hard to have an interest in doing anything. We no longer remember our purpose in life. We are just dwelling in the pain of loss.
It is important to let yourself feel the loss, go through the stages of grief in your own time, and allow yourself some time to heal.
But it is also important to realize that life goes on. Find a new beginning, a new purpose or a new interest. This was the end of this life and the beginning of another for your loved one; but you are still alive here on this earth. Your loved one would want you to go on living. Don’t bury yourself when you bury a loved one.
After the death of my parents; I found my new beginning at Wealthy Affiliate (for a new purpose), and by seeking a deeper relationship with Christ.
When we lose someone who has occupied a very important place in our heart and lives, we are bound to feel lonely for a time. It is a kind of loneliness that doesn’t lesson when we are in a crowd.
But isolating ourselves is not the answer. We must actively seek for a sense of purpose and look for a new passion in life. I needed a new purpose after my parents; who I was taking care of, died within 8 months of each other. I found that and more at Wealthy Affiliate. To learn more click on the link below:
When we are lonely, we can feel that no one really cares about us. This can lead to depression. We need to find something to fill the void.
However trying to fill that void with another person too soon, can lead us in to relationships that we later regret.
Moving into a closer relationship with God at this time can be beneficial. Seeking out a church and becoming involved can be a great source of comfort and sometimes a good support system.
Sometimes we are paralyzed by indecision. What do we want to do? What can we do? Maybe we could get involved in “this”, or maybe “that”.
I want a vacation; but where? What mode of transportation? How much can I spend? Who will go with me?, etc.
I need to improve my eating habits. How will I do that? When will I do that? Tomorrow, next week, next month?
Indecision can become a way of life if we let it. It can cause us to not do anything because of fear of doing the wrong thing.
It may help to remember that a decision is not necessarily right or wrong, so much as it is up to us to make of it what we want from it. Our reaction to the decisions we make is what is important; not what others think of our decision.
Making any decision is better than making no decision.
Writing down a list of pros and cons could help. Talking to those close to you may help. Asking God for help sometimes results in an answer. The most important thing is to “make an educated decision” and then deal with it positively.
Lack of action
Many things can cause us to suffer from inaction. Indecision, depression, mourning, loss, health concerns, loneliness, etc.
The only cure for inaction is ACTION.
It is not so important what you do, as long as you do SOMETHING! Making a list of things you want to do may help. Pick the easiest and quickest thing on the list if you need to; but do something.
Doing one thing can cause you to begin another. As we begin some action, we will stir up confidence to do something else. And remember, today is the only day we can live in, and the best time to start something new.
Lack of faith in God and church family
Not having a relationship with God is sometimes a cause of boredom. It results in us seeing the world we live in only with earthly eyes. However there is another whole dimension out there called the spiritual realm. When we look at our lives through a spiritual lens; it is a much different picture.
Forming a relationship with God is very important.
There are many people who go to church every Sunday; but they have little, or no relationship with God. When hard things happen in their lives; they are unprepared; and sometimes even blame God.
But if we really take the time and effort to get to know God; we realize that He is love, and He cares for us in a way that no earthy person is capable of caring for us. He has promised that He would never leave us or forsake us.
Being involved in a God fearing church can offer a great support system. If you arrive late and leave early; and try to avoid talking to anyone; you will never find that support.
If you smile and show an interest in others, you will build sustaining friendships. As you reach out to support them; they will in turn reach out in support to you.
That’s why God wants us to attend church; because we can uplift, pray for, and encourage each other.
This post is a reflection of some thoughts I have on this subject. If they are any help to you; take and use them. If you have some thoughts or questions pertaining to the subject of being retired and bored; please leave a comment in the comment section below.
I hope this post has helped someone who is bored, depressed, or lacking in faith, to see a way better way; and to have hope for a better future.
Remember, everything in this life is finite. It has a beginning, a middle and an end. So if you are going through a hard circumstance in your life, you can know that it is temporary.
This too shall pass!
- Most of the photographs used in this post are courtesy of Pixabay.
- The opinions in this post are from the author, and are not meant to be taken as medical or psychiatric advice.
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