What’s in Your Package?







Doesn’t Christmas make you think of the beautifully wrapped packages we find under the tree. We anticipate something beautiful  on the inside. Sometimes what is inside exceeds our expectations; but we could also be sorely disappointed. People can be like that too.


Sometimes the ones that are “beautifully wrapped” are a disappointment once we know them better. On the other hand the “plainly wrapped” people sometimes contain the “jewels” we expected to find inside the “beautiful wrapping”.  So I ask you:


What’s in your package?











Most of us spend a lot of time working on our wrapping We eat in such a way as to stay thin and healthy.  We exercise to tone and strengthen our bodies.  We choose clothing to flatter the bodies we are working so hard to perfect.  And we spend a bundle on skin care, hair care products, and makeup.  Most of us are on a passionate quest to look the best that we can possibly look on the outside.









But what about the inside?


What is on the inside of people?  It is character.  But what forms our characters?  Our life experiences; both good and bad, affect our character.  Our upbringing plays a part. People, particularly people close to us, help to form who we become.  Our status, particularly financial status, can be a factor. Faith in God can also change us for the better. There are many factors that contribute to forming our character.









The Bible has this to say about character forming.


Romans 5:3 – 5:  (3) And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience;  (4)  And patience, experience; and experience, hope:  (5)  And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.


What are some characteristics of good character?




According to the Bible:


Galatians 5 – (22) But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, (23) Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.


Colossians 3 – (12) Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; (13) Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. (14) And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness. (15) And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful. (16) Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. (17) And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.













Good Character should exhibit the “fruit of the Spirit”


  1.   Love

  2.   Joy

  3.   Peace

  4.   Longsuffering

  5.   Gentleness

  6.   Goodness

  7.   Faith

  8.   Meekness

  9.   Temperance











Good character will show in these ways:


  1.   Loves and is loved in return

  2.   Shows mercy to others

  3.   Is kind, not cruel

  4.   Is humble, not proud

  5.   Is meek, not raucous or crude

  6.   Longsuffering and patient

  7.   Willing to forgive

  8.   Exudes peace of God

  9.   Is thankful, not entitled

  10.   Allows the word of God dwell in them

  11.   Shares the wisdom of God with others

  12.   Does all things in the name of Jesus




Ten Characteristics of good character


  1.  Caring

  2.  Truthful

  3.  Trustworthy and dependable

  4.  Kind

  5.  Thoughtful

  6.  Forgiving

  7.  Positive

  8.  Thankful

  9.  Helpful

  10.  Humble


We can all ask ourselves, is this what people would find inside our package?  As they begin to know us better, will they uncover more and more of these characteristics?












What are some characteristics of bad or flawed character?


Galations 5 – (19) Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, (20) Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, ( 21) e, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.


Ten Character flaws


  1.  Think and act negatively

  2.  Cannot be trusted or depended upon

  3.  Will lie and steal

  4.  Use people for their own gain

  5.  Hatred, anger, and vindictiveness rules

  6.  Stirs up trouble

  7.  Substance and sexual abusers

  8.  Unkind and rude

  9.  Proud and arrogant

  10.  Feel they are untitled


Have any of these attributes crept inside your package? As people get closer to you, do they find any of these difficult traits as part of your character?










Can we improve our character?


The answer is a definite yes.  Character is formed by many different factors, as I stated above.  And because of all those factors, we form habits that become a way of life.  Habits are hard to break; but they can be broken. They can then be replaced by positive habits.


What will you need to activate change?


  •  A desire for change

  •  A belief that you can change

  •  The determination to change

  •  Action to implement the change

  •  Time and patience to accomplish the change.










Each day is a new day.  If we don’t like some attributes that are a part of our characters; we aren’t stuck with them. We can change.  Whatever formed those less desirable traits is a part of the past.  We can’t live in the past, or the future.  We have some choices to make.


Do we remain as we are; simply because it is all we have ever known?  Do we convince ourselves that we can’t change?  People will just have to put up with who we are. Circumstances made us who we are, and we can’t do anything about it now.


Do we “poor me” ourselves into a state of immobility?  Or try to convince ourselves, and others that we could have been better person if life had dealt us a better hand?  Do we rehearse our failures and hard knocks, and use them as proof that we can’t change?










Or…do we realize that circumstances, good or bad, affect us and try to mold us; but we can change!  We do not have to be defined by life’s circumstances.  We have a choice. We can choose to let the past in the past, and take the reins of our life in our own hands.  Change may not always be easy; but it is possible, and even desirable.


We can choose to stop “shooting ourselves in the foot” with all of our negative thinking and talking.  We can open our minds to the fact that as long as we have breath, we can change, grow, and evolve into the person we want to be.












So here we are, wrapped in the beautiful package that we have so carefully crafted for the world to see and admire. But what is inside?  Have we taken the same care to make our character a thing of beauty?  Or have we wrapped up a stagnant piece of garbage in beautiful paper tied with colorful ribbons and bows?










Today is the day to start taking charge of our lives.  The day to let go of our negativity and self pity  This is the day that we can start to change.  Today is the only day we can live in.  Let the past in the past.  Live today!  


Believe that you can achieve.


God has promised that if we would believe on Him; He would make us a new person.  Feel like you’ve tried everything and can’t change?  Try God!


2 Corinthians 5:1 – Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.




Thank you for reading  I hope this post has given you food for thought. Please feel free to use the comment section to contribute your thoughts on this subject.


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